helping others

I love my job. I love working in Higher Education and I love helping people.But nothing frustrates me more than when I am trying to help others and they won't help themselves. For example, I spent so much time last week scheduling individual meetings with students. I just want to chat with them to make sure they are adjusted in the two most important ways: academically (I looked up grades) and socially. Yet, as I sit in my office and wait - I just continue to wait. No show after no show.

This relates to so much that we do in life. How many times to we hear people say you can't help someone who wont help themselves? It is in everything we do in life. We continue to question these relationships we form with people over the years and yet, we let the simplest things people do frustrate us.

This week I am continuing to work on letting go. It is so hard for me to want to care so much about other people - there are many times I have to remind myself that I don't have all the answers. I absolutely  have some strong opinions, but that doesn't mean I know what is best for someone else. Most the times, I don't even know what is best for me.

Throughout the last couple months - there seems to be so many articles relating to 20 somethings. What we should do, what we shouldn't do, why we are awesome, why we aren't so awesome. Yesterday I even read an article about how people were talking about pushing the level of "adulthood" back to 25 instead of 18ish. As wonderful as it is to read these articles, I just keep thinking that I am so different from these people who write these articles. I have had different life experiences and have dealt with those experiences different from people who have been through the same thing. Reading advice articles can be fantastic but in the end, we have to remember that we stand on our own two feet and that is all that matters.

Being independent has never been a struggle for me. I actually really enjoy the freedom that comes with it. Being a 20 something makes since in my world.